The Naked Face Project: Hello Negative Self Talk, February 18

So…now I am over here…in this world where beauty is truly abounding.  It is everywhere.  I realize that I may sound a bit crazy…and I’m fine with that.  Over here, though, I must tell you there are so many things I’ve missed that I can’t possibly articulate every one of them.

It’s not just about people being beautiful…everything is.  Colors seem to pop a bit brighter.  Time seem to pass more slowly. I think because I’m taking the time to really observe the people and things that show up, I feel a greater sense of calm.  I’m not in a hurry.

One thing I have noticed, as I look back on the other side, was the amount of negative self-talk I still had rumbling around inside my head.  Over here on this side, I may see it, but I’m not the one saying it.

The first couple of weeks without make up…should really be no big deal.  But for me…they were masking a lot of my insecurities around growing older, looking unattractive, not being somehow appealing to the opposite gender.  It’s funny…I would never have known how many of these thoughts were still taking my self-worth hostage if I hadn’t NOT worn the make up.  I really thought I had eliminated all of these.  I have worked very hard since my early 30’s to hone in on my negative self-talk and try to put an end to it…but what I didn’t know is the secret talk going on underneath…the talk that was hiding in there.

Here were some of those thoughts that showed up.  (I find it interesting that they came in the form of ‘YOU” instead of I. What’s also interesting is that not a one of these statements is necessarily negative, but I took it as such when I heard them in my head.  So when I heard them…there was a shaming tone that went along with them.)

“Oh you look like a mess.”

“Oh my God, you look tired.”

“You look so frail…so thin.”

“You look so old.”

“I just want to get this whole thing over.”

“Why does this matter?  I think you should give up. It’s no big deal. Just wear the make-up.  This is stupid.”

What a revelation for me.  I’m in the business of helping girls see and  eliminate negative self-talk as part of helping them know and feel their self-worth (of course we aren’t trying to achieve perfection here…we are probably always going to have some negative self-talk…we are human after all. )

I’ve never been afraid of feeling uncomfortable.  Of course, like most people, I have been afraid of going into spaces unknown to me,  but I do admit that I am also a bit excited by it.  I’ve learned, over the course of my lifetime (sometimes not by choice) that whenever I’m touching something that is uncomfortable or scary (even just a little) there is always something soon to reveal itself…a breakthrough comes.  I knew before I started this whole thing that, while on the outside it looked shallow, silly and unimportant in the big scheme of life, that for me…this woman…writing to you right now…it would be something that might possibly take me to a whole new level of awareness.

There have been a lot of writings around a concept known as “the dark night of the soul.”  I’m beginning to see that this journey…this simple little conversation…may be a bridge from the world as I’ve known it…to something different…new…evolved.

Feel free to comment here, anything that’s on your mind.  But also if you prefer to send your comments in a more personal way…go for it.  Our email is thenakedfaceproject@gmail.com.

I’m starting to get really excited.

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8 Responses to The Naked Face Project: Hello Negative Self Talk, February 18

  1. Greg Ward says:

    Molly,
    Anybody can just sit around in their own personal safety zone doing nothing more than a daily routine. You, on the other hand, chose a path that began many years ago. Wouldn’t you say, “G.O.T.R. has been and always will be a work in progress”? In my opinion, anything worth while is and should continue to be!

    The lesson plans that the G.O.T.R. family follows are chocked full of high-quality information for young people, at a time when there is still hope of planting some positivety in the back of their minds. The way I see it is, even if the program doesn’t render an immediate result on an individual level, we believe that those lessons are planted in their minds where some day, it will compute!

    Whether or not the “Naked Face Project” renders any crystal-clear answers now, to be used in future teachings, remains to be seen. In any case, we’re pretty sure that just the experiment all on it’s own is worth it’s weight in gold, mainly because it makes people think about the question itself. “Why do people wear makeup and designer clothes Molly?”

    It’s been extremely interesting to follow, that is, the experiment itself. From the outside looking in, I would say that you’ve already accomplished what you sought out to do Molly, by living it, and once again, setting a GREAT example for our kids!

    Keep up the marvelous work Molly! Our designer hats are off to you! LOL

  2. Adrienne says:

    I just want to say thank you. It is amazing to read your thoughts and revelations. A transformation after only 2 weeks! Hopefully soon I’ll have the guts like you and Caitlin to experiment without beauty products.

  3. Kris Pall says:

    Molly…I too could sense that when you embarked on this journey that it would ultimately be life changing for you. There was something about the way you wrote your initial entries that revealed how this was so much more than taking off society’s labels…although you figured that would happen too. I guess if there is one thing that surprises me is…it’s how quickly it all started to unfold for you (which means that what you’re experiencing now how been brewing deep down for a long time). The changes…the breakthroughs…all of it…and I’m sure that this is just the tip of the iceberg too because I also feel that the vibrations/ripples of your experiment are going to have WIDESPREAD impact, in ways you might never truly know except in your soul. You are making a difference to me…and I am “feeling” what you’re saying…for sure!

  4. Just me says:

    It is so WONDERFUL to read this posts – I LOVE them! You are bringing such a smile to my face and I’m glad you’re starting to see how wonderful this is and see the beauty all around you. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with this and I really hope you’ll encourage many others to try this too!!

  5. Dawn Harrison-Drasner says:

    I love to keep up on this. I do the same thing…”god, you look so old”, “look at those bags and/or dark circles under your eyes”. UG. It’s something almost every day that I choose to focus on. Pick a feature that is bothering me and then that is all I will single out when I look into a mirror. Then there is my lovely mom. She rarely, if ever, wears makeup. Never has. But I look at her and see beauty. It’s because I see HER. The way she’s always been. Not her makeup, or lack of it. She glows with life. She has many wrinkles and crinkles and yes, some age spots. But she’s always looked that way. As the years pass, she’s grown into it. She slowly let her age show, as it surely did not happen overnight. I think, if she were to suddenly wear makeup I would be wierded out! Me? I am not a big makeup fan, but I love my age correctors…serums….moisturizers. My targeted age defyers! Do they work? NAH, not a one has a result I think is miraculous. But, I am sucked right back when there is a “new, revolutionary breakthough”. LOL!

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